Dear Shufaa,

If there is one thing you need to know is that you are a hopeless romantic. You enjoy flowers and dates and holding hands and random kisses on your forehead. You crave having that special someone to share everything with. Hopes, dreams, food. You will dream up your own Cinderella story more times than you are willing to admit. You’ll have it all figured out, white picket fence, six kids, stay at home mom- type of figured out. You know it all.

You will also find someone who will sweep you off your feet. Give you everything you have been looking for. You will have it made. Or rather, you will think so.

But you should also know this, your heart will be broken. More times than you ever imagined. Yes, by your Prince Charming. He will make you question why you ever believed in love. He will lie to you, he will be inappropriate with other girls, he will neglect you. Doesn’t sound like much of a Prince Charming huh? He will apologize, many times. You will forgive him, more times than he apologizes. But you will never really forget. And once that seed of doubt is sown, it honestly never really ever goes away completely.

But here’s what I need you to know and understand. His actions are not a reflection of who YOU are. It has nothing to do with you that he is a liar, or a cheat or whatever. You do not influence his choices in any way, he chooses what he wants to do. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. Do not ever lower your self-worth, self-confidence or self-esteem for a so called Prince Charming. always remember that you are more than pretty enough, nice enough, sexy enough and NO, you do not need to lose weight. Love yourself and leave. It may be easier said than done, but honey LOVE YOURSELF AND LEAVE.

If someone cannot see how much of a gem you are, it is not you who should do the changing. So don’t stop loving. Don’t stop dreaming. Don’t stop wearing your heart on your sleeve. Because that’s what makes you, you. And one day, after many break ups and let downs, you will find someone who loves you for exactly who you are and who will never hurt you. You may be surprised; this person may actually be just you.

Love yourself mama, always. Forgive, always forgive. Because forgiving is more for you than it is for the other person. And dream. Dream big, fantasize and imagine. Because somehow the universe hears you and brings you what you desire.

Love always and forever,


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