QUESTIONS & ANSWERS

Dear Nyokabi,

For your 16th birthday dad got you a book, “Simple Abundance; a Day Book of Comfort & Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach.

Right now it is quite impossible to distinguish how much of it has influenced and or shaped your ideas on the journey of self-discovery.

There are many outstanding and memorable things you have learnt by reading and re-reading the book, but this letter is about questions and answers. The reading in Simple Abundance for January 2nd has a quote from German poet Rainer Marie Rilke

“…Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them and the point is to live everything. Live the questions now…”

When you first read this it makes no sense. Why would anyone want to live in questions when the whole point of questions is answers?

We must live everything: our successes and failures, our insecurities, our contradictions, our (ir)rational thoughts/decisions/ actions. We know this, but we do not know this. I find it incredible that we don’t spend more time on the questions whose answers can change our world.

Even as I wrote it out, my gratitude was renewed because of the grace and patience questions have given me.

You will struggle with grand emotions, and you will arrive at a crossroad every so often.  Listen closely. When you really start asking yourself the questions, learn to sift through the ones that don’t matter and focus on the ones that do. The ones that carry weight, the ones that get you a little closer to knowing something new about yourself.

You are done with your first degree (congratulations!). You are looking at Master’s programs and Industrial Psychology sounds technical but interesting enough.

You study hard for the entry exams and you fail stupendously.

You stumble onto Theatre & Media for Development online. This changes everything.

That course will be the most emotionally exhausting, spiritually uplifting, bravest and most honest thing you will do. Followed closely by this storytelling project.

It is impossible to know who will read this and what they will make of it. That is not the question.

The question is who are you between the question and the answer. Sometimes it takes what feels like forever for work to bear fruit, for dreams to become a reality, for pain to subside, for the lesson to be learnt.

There are questions and answers between the joy, the heartache, the confusion, the loss, the love and all the emotions in between. But let there always be room for grace and a will to do more, to be more, and to see more. Let there always be room to read the same thing in different ways and find new meaning.

“…Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them and the point is to live everything. Live the questions now…”

Live the questions now.

Love always.

Nyokabi

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